Sherapyinsights

Power vs Place

2010-06-11T20:22:00.000-07:00

How often in life or even in a day do we feel that we have lost our power to a person, a circumstance or a situation? It seems that power is something that is easily lost as we feel we have lost control over something. When we lose our power the thing that took our power, or shall i say the situation we gave our power to, seems to be the center of our universe. Then we invite the mind in for play and the mind distorts, measures and judges and we are under its power as well. We end up feeling like a weak, rotten, lame person. We get into the the 'why Me's' and we feel that no one else could possibly be dealing with these types of things but us. We can literally become obsessive about what or whom we lost our power to and we scheme up ways to get our power back. It is all mind. It is all distortion. When I feel I have lost my power I remind myself that nothing has 'power' in my life unless I give it power. When I find that I have given something/someone power I remind myself that it is OK for every circumstance or person in my life to have a 'place' but not a power. That simple reminder changes my whole obsessive frequency. Everything has a place not a power. Anything that I have given power can simply be put back into its proper place in my thinking or in my emotional world. This thought gives access to a total shift in perception and emotional energy. Whatever you have lost your power to...get it back and let it have its place. If it has its place you can learn from it and look at it objectively instead of obsessively Good luck. It takes practice.

Humility

2010-06-06T22:59:00.000-07:00

Humility is once again a topic of discussion. How often is it when we receive criticism that we are not gracious to it. Criticism is a form of feedback that can be so helpful to our growth. It can be tough to take at times....yes, but sometimes the feedback we get is exactly what we need to get to the next level of our growth as an individual. If the feedback we receive does not feel correct for us there is no reason to swallow it, however, all feedback may have at least a seed (if not a whole spoonful) of truth to it that could possibly make a difference in the way that we approach the world. Life is about changing and growing no matter how educated we are, how smart we think we are or how great we think we are. There should always be room for growth. I think it can be equally as hard to deliver criticism as it is to receive it. Sometimes when we think about confronting we can get afraid of conflict, rejection or some other negative consequence but the bottom line is that none of us are perfect, we are all here to learn and grow and to face fears of conflict and to give someone feedback can be healing to the soul. We should feel good about ourselves that our feedback may possibly impact someone for deeper reflection into themselves. Giving it and getting it are a gift if we can be humble enough to give it and be open to it. It can only make us better people.

emotion/essence

2010-05-27T10:55:00.000-07:00

What do we do when sadness comes? I have worked with so many people or have known so many people, including myself that struggle with shame when sadness comes. The way that I treat and/or look at the emotions is that when they are coming up it is because they need to come out. It's a chemical process or a natural process. When we resist their waves and we keep them in they actually begin to grow in our unconscious. It becomes like a mold that spores very quickly without our noticing and soon people begin to feel that we have negative energy. As they begin to grow and build we have less and less control over their expression and how they manifest in the world. The emotions are our hard earned pearls gleaned from life's challenges. We cannot escape them by not dealing with them...they will just get transferred to the next person, challenge, job in greater volume etc. If we deal with the emotions as they come we are taking advantage of the opportunity to cleanse and let go in the now and we travel much lighter in life. People begin to feel we have good energy and we then attract more and more into our lives. To take care of yourself means to take care of how you feel. Try not to expect others to take care of how you feel. They are your emotions and are there for you to understand and nurture. The more you understand how to take care of yourself the more wise and dignified you become. There becomes something about you that is different, as if you have been breathed upon by something magical...your essence is different and you become intriguing to others because they will want to have what you have. The hard work of the emotional world is absolutely worth it. Today take care of yourself.

Youthful folly leading to revolution

2010-05-24T15:02:00.000-07:00

Youthful folly is all about an innocence or naivety about life and often the people or circumstances in it. We can look at the world with bright eyes, be full of hope and ultimately lose our connection to reality and/or logic. Being hopeful is a beautiful and inspiring feeling when we are in it and it can be painfully misleading. I often tell my patients (and remind myself) that hope is dope...especially when it comes to our relationships. We often think and hope for the people around us to change. When we get distorted in this way, we end up living off of our natural patterns and we become lost in the hope which sets us up for the fall. What I try to do is to get logic wrapped around my hope. This can take time. Time and repeated experience are healing elixirs to distorted hopes. It is looking at the patterns of behavior over time and seeing it without distortion but with sensibility and then revolution can come. If something or someone is not adding to your life it is time for revolution in some form whether that be rejection and getting that person/job etc. out of your life or it could be about making a major change in your life. Rejecting something in your life that is holding you down is what allows you to take flight. In life to get the most out of it we have to be brave enough to set revolution into action.
Be brave to today!

letting go

2010-05-21T22:15:00.000-07:00

Letting go--
Letting go is something that many of us avoid. Whenever we let something go there is a void that we experience in its absence. To avoid the anticipated emptiness many people will not let go. So many of us will stay where we are miserable just to avoid the fear of the emptiness. I have found that when we let go and dive into the emptiness that the emptiness is temporary and it is not bottomless. In fact, when we let go we set ourselves free to soar to new heights and to new places we never could have gone had we continued to hold on. If there is something in our lives that is holding us down, making us unhappy, or causing us constant frustration...take a breath and just let go. The most powerful thing we can do at times is to turn away. There is relief, there is surrender and the doors open for all the new experiences wanting to come into your life to bring you joy. Letting go also helps us to keep our energy clean. Clean energy is attractive energy. The more clean you keep your emotional environment the more powerful of a person you become. Get out your cleaning solutions today and get to work...figure out what to let go of...and get rid of it.

woman rising

2010-05-11T10:25:00.000-07:00

snippet from book two

Woman Rising

I am a woman rising

from the depths of

all of life's challenges

I still come out shining

I am not always secure in intimacy

I seem to lose my power

the closer I am to somebody

My life..not a fairy tale story

rather is a adventure

from victim to victory

I have learned I have to

love myself crazy

My love for myself is worked

upon daily

I am not inspired by marriage

however....

through all that pain

I learned how to have carriage

ridicule and gossip were all a

part of it...

people who judge make

me want to wretch

I have learned not place

others before myself

I have learned to embrace

my oneness first.

My oneness is my natural rhythm

upon which I dance

the music in my life

puts me into a trance

It is magical and

self created

My uniqueness has been hard earned

just watch me as I let it burn

In life I want to tear it up

fill up to the brim

my happy cup

I now live a life dynamic

I have an understanding of me

that is authentic

I am not designed to be married

to one person

I may travel through many

different love experiences

commitment not an issue for me

I just don't like feeling

as if I am not free

I have many stars to reach

for...don't you see?

I need someone dynamic

who can keep up with me.

so I fly far far away

through a journey

that is done in my own unique way

I have been through fear

heart ache and pain

at times so unsure

I felt I would fracture

now I embrace the energy

of composure

I am living life in my own way

taking in my lessons everyday

Life is full of things for me to embrace

I have love everywhere

I feel so graced

Life is changeable

I find it so inspiring

I am embraced in the process of evolving

I am....A WOMAN RISING

Perfected Grace

2010-05-10T10:44:00.000-07:00

As we all know life is emotionally stormy. That is just life. It is what it is. life is a series of crises that we face, whether they be physical, emotional, mental and/or spiritual. Each crisis is here for us to pass through so we gain a maturity or a sense of growth...to develop a new form or level of ourselves. The trick is to stay open, to stay composed and to show perfected grace in the world...internally we can battle and be in fear while to the outside world we can stay composed and open to the process of maturing through change. Change...all change and all crisis is here to mature us as people. The more mature we become the more open we operate in life. Perfected grace is showing an energy of an inherent trust in the process that your life is taking. Being in the flow of life, not aggravating it, responding to it rather than reacting to it...that is perfected grace. All things find their way to a new level whether that be growth and expansion or closure.
walk in perfected grace today.
Dr. Sherrie

Let it spin

2010-05-06T22:42:00.001-07:00

Life has a flow to it. Sometimes we are comfortable in the flow and at other times the flow is excruciatingly painful. We all have elements of our lives that do not have resolution to them and out of anxiety we often go after those elements and try to control them. By doing this we actually exacerbate the stress. Stress is meant to be a "passing through" energy. If we aggravate stress by going in and trying to control we actually create the stress to grow and to stay longer. Whatever is stressing you, whatever elements of your life are unresolved...let them spin. Everything in this universe has a natural spin and all things spin to closure. As something uncomfortable is spinning, change your focus to things that you can control and know that all things have a way of coming to balance. The trick is in trusting time. In time balance comes and then we wonder why we stressed so hard in the first place. Just let it spin...

science of decision making/intuition

2010-04-26T10:18:00.000-07:00

Did you know that all of our correct answers are in the body. The head is on a pole outside the body for a reason...the head is an 'outer authority' it is here to inspire others. Answers, however, are in the body. Our heart organ is 65% brain as I have mentioned in other posts. Thus, the body is the seat of the original,most correct answer. Our intuition, as some call it, is experienced as a feeling or an inner knowing that manifests in the body...the gut. This is not a mental process this in an emotion/instinctual process. As adults we often ignore these bodily sensations and we justify and rationalize away our feelings. We mentally accuse ourselves of being insecure or paranoid. I believe with enough time intuitions do always manifest as truths in our lives and I hope the reader will be inspired to be less critical of and more in tune with intuitive responses because they are correct. If we could act upon them more in the moment just imagine how much emotional trauma we could save ourselves. This is a practice for me every day and it is difficult to hone because the mind is so powerful and so full of distortion. When I get distorted I try and go back to my original feeling to back to center.

Fear... a snippet from my first book

2010-04-21T12:56:00.000-07:00

Fear

For as long as I can remember

fear was closer to me emotionally

than any family member

My fear....unlike them

was always there

Its presence I could always feel within

its darkness would come from behind

and take me in.

Without my sight,

in its darkness I was blind.

My fear was clearly for so many years

the ruler of my life.

It had the power to control me

and eat me alive.

It held me back from living my life.

In this time alone...i knew

my relationship with fear

I had to get clear.

I had to befriend my fear.

Its seeds were planted within me somewhere.

Its roots I had to discover.

For many days and nights I looked at my fear

and cried.

I got to know it .

I let it whisper in my ear

It had things to say

I wanted to hear.

My fear ....it did not come from nowhere.

It had been with me since the

first emotional fracture.

My fear's intention was to protect and warn me

of what was up ahead that would hurt me.

In my discovery I felt compassion

for this mechanism

My fear had good intentions.

I now had a very new and unexpected understanding

My fear was not there to paralyze me.

My fear was my ally.

If used correctly it could motivate me

instead of engulf me.

My fear had new meaning.

I could let my fear

signal me when it was time

to face something.

I knew fear would always be there

to invade my psyche

But now I knew I could use it

to help me.

For behavior to change

it must first be understood by insight...

I think I am on my way.

fear

2010-04-20T09:13:00.000-07:00

Fear can be a suffocating emotional experience that has the potential to halt your involvement in life. With fear...we have to learn to travel with uncomfortable feelings. It is about learning to be comfortable in the uncomfortable... all emotional states are temporary and wash in and wash out like the waves of the ocean. Once fear is triggered if one can surrender it will have many whisperings of insights to share with you. Fear has a great intention. It is the most evolving emotion we have because we tend to move when we are uncomfortable. If fear stops forward movement then we are not responding to its evolutionary purpose. The more it stops you the more it grows and eventually one will be left in a state of depression. Movement is fear's intention...it wants you to move so that you can travel out of it into a new level of life. If we feel fear in the body....guess what....get moving!

oneness

2010-04-17T11:13:00.000-07:00

We are often so focused on controlling others in our outside world and waiting on them to meet our needs and expectations that we, in essence, lose our ability to take care of ourselves. Oneness is being you. We often are better equipped at taking care of others and we get joy out of the direct results we see when we make someone happy. What if we were to take care of ourselves in the same way that we take care of others. What if we stopped trying to get others to come on our "program" and rather we just lived our own program. Each of us is a unique individual and sometimes we have to make really difficult decisions to go out in the world and put ourselves first and I see that so many of us do not do that. We seem great on the outside as we rush around to 'please' the expectations of others but we are not happy inside. Today do for yourself what you would normally do for others. Make this a habit. Its basic math...you come first the world comes second...and watch how your energy changes. I am not talking here about being self-centered...I am talking about being centered on self. Fill up your oneness with what you expect others to do for you...and shine!
Dr. Sherrie

2010-04-14T10:01:00.000-07:00

A little snack from my second book. As terrifying or agitating as our emotions can be, if we let them come we will find a gentle pearl of wisdom at the core of whatever emotions we are traveling with. Did you know that the heart organ is 65% brain...and it has an uninterrupted connection to the emotional-cognitive brain? What this means is that...all of our answers are in our bodies. It is the place of intuition. We feel our answers first. That first feeling is the correct answer...once the feeling gets up to the brain we tend to get distorted and doubtful of the original feeling. Remember...all of your correct decisions are made within the body...how you feel ...that very first feeling is the correct decision. Try and harness your truth today...and then don't think about it so much. Just do it!

Truth

Living my truth
what does that mean?
It means that I must live
according to my distinctive feelings.

My emotions are the most
enlightened aspect of my humanity.
The thoughts in my head
cannot be my inner authority.
They confuse me and instill mental misery

I have to feel
even if it is terrifying.
My stomach drops
into each emotion that is so alive
each one with its own intense ride.
I fear I will not survive.

I must develop my ability to see past
the wave of the emotion.
Clarity will come as the wave
returns to the calm of the ocean.

Each emotion has a truth to tell me,
each will offer the exact guidance
I will need

To live my truth
my defenses must go down.
I have to let go.
Into my emotions I must travel.

My truth lives in the core of each emotion.
I will peel back layers of distortion
and swim into their ocean.

A truth I do know…

I am a strong woman

2010-04-12T11:57:00.000-07:00

Surrender:
Surrender is about letting go and/or giving into a process that one has been fighting. Surrender is about getting off the emotional roller coaster that life naturally provides for us. In surrendering we often have to jump into the void of aloneness and loneliness. In doing so we get the creative opportunity to learn how to love ourselves instead of supplying ourselves with love that is always coming from an external source. Love exists within each of us...yes, it can be hard to get to when the mind is full of distortion, but regardless...love is always within us ready for us to drink its nectar. If we do not truly love ourselves we cannot love anyone else. Surrender for me often brings about a detoxification process where I have emotions that come up because they need to come out. I have learned to just let them come. Once they are out... I have peace. I find the power within me under all those emotions.

Choosing to be alone can feel like an addict would feel when withdrawing from a drug. The pain can be so deep and soul wrenching that many prefer to avoid it. Avoiding it causes it grow like a mold and this makes life that much more difficult to manage. There are times when we just have to be brave and jump into the void of surrender. Take your jump today! You will find the gifts of growth will far outweigh the temporary discomfort of your chaotic emotions as you surrender.

Be a beautiful disaster!
Dr. Sherrie

2010-04-09T09:13:00.000-07:00

The feeling of being lost may be one of the most unsettling, paralyzing experiences we can have and life will bring this experience to us many times throughout a lifetime. When we lose our sense of security and stability we become reptilian brained and we live in our basic survival mechanisms. Everything feels like an emergency as we grapple to find that feeling of safety. Sadness and fear can be hard to control and there are times that putting one foot in front of the other is the only way to survive. The great thing about feeling lost is that it is a temporary, situational experience. Time is always moving us foward. We are always moving foward. Eventually with enough time and movement we have things to respond to that life brings us and we find that we are no longer lost. Security will always find its way to you...try not to push the river...just wait to respond. While you are waiting and feeling lost...breathe...this is a highly creative time. It is about preparing for what is coming! BELIEVE.
DR. SHERRIE

2010-04-07T16:02:00.000-07:00

Hello my friends. Today I was thinking about the issue of respect. Respect is something we all want and desire but often times we have such a hard time gathering it from the outside world. It is really simple in theory right? We say yes when we want to say yes and no when we want to say no. So why is when we want to say no that we come across such anxiety about how others will receive that "no." The anxiety that we have often causes us to say way too much to please the person we are saying no to. I have found communication that is short, succinct and unemotional causes us to immediately draw respect. When we get into pleasing or the fear of our no making someone mad...we try and prove ourselves to them in order to make our NO valid. We then become emotional and our boundary gets lost...we lose respect.

One of the best ways to say no is through the use of gratitude. We can thank someone for whatever it is that they are offering and then just say no. When we jump through hoops for people it often has a negative outcome. People see our hoop jumping as us being easy to manipulate emotionally. If we can be manipuated then we can be manipulated out of saying no. Guilt is often used to get us to go against what we are trying to say no to.

Today if you need to say no...give a little gratitude and then without explaining yourself or saying too much...just say no.
good luck!
Dr. Sherrie

2010-04-02T21:37:00.000-07:00

Needing help and knowing that you need help comes hand in hand with humility that whatever it is you are doing to survive is not working. To have humility there has to be a sense of self awareness. Sometimes when our hearts are aching we are in a place of loneliness. To be lonely means to be without love. To be alone is only about space. It is hard to feel comfortable when we are lonely. We can be sad, chaotic beings. It is part of our nature. The great thing about seeking help from whomever is that it gives us the opportunity to be nurtured, loved, heard and understood. Others most often hold a higher thought of us then we hold of ourselves. We are hardest on ourselves. Loneliness, the feeling of being different, feeling melancholic and the trap of comparison occur all throughout the lifespan. We travel with these different states of mind from time to time. Often we use methods of avoidance, blame, or defensiveness to rid ourselves of these traps but I have learned and I hope you learn that that humility and reaching out are sometimes the best ways to get to the other side of a negative perception. Humility is the only way through life because life is hard and it will always have its challenges. Ride it out! Just hold on and ride it out...that is the way! To go at life fighting it with our egos will create more and more pain, but small doses of humility can change the course of your life. Love yourself today because there is only one like you. Be fully expressed...let the tantrum out, find the humility, ride it out and RISE ABOVE! Go at it....get busy....power on!!

Unique

2010-03-30T15:02:00.001-07:00

Hello friends...here is a poem from the book I am working on publishing! Enjoy..remember...you are unique...love yourself

Unique

I am but just one cell
in this vast cosmic divinity.
I must embrace
all that is unique about me.
I have to do this
to fulfill my God given destiny.

My small part is necessary
for the cosmic working
of this “life thing.”

No more trying to fit in.
In doing so I lose
my unique expression.

I must use my five senses
to express outwardly
my soul within.

There is only one of me
in the sea of divinity.
That is why I have a body.
To be separate
allows for the unique
expression of my individuality.

On a higher level,
we are all connected.
Each of us having our own
unique purpose.

To be the same
is to be deaf, mute and lame.
Yet we are all a family.

Each person
has a contribution.
It is lightness or darkness.
Whatever he or she chooses.
In each moment we have
to choose this.

We will all get caught up
in bad choices,
but the point is
to make your contribution
mostly lightness.

To be unique is to be free.
I have to embrace my power
to experience and express
this journey deep into
my singularity.

I chase this life at God-speed.
Each person’s part
I realize is of equal necessity.

Each of us having a body
to use as the vessel
for our divine creativity.

I embrace this process.
Through it I have built
the love of me….
brick by brick.

It is not about being narcissistic.
Not for me.
For me it’s about embracing
this life’s offerings.
On the other side of pain
is a glorious possibility.

Undock your boat
and embark on life’s journey.
Know yourself,
and give to this world
your unique being.

The cosmic divinity
pines for your beauty.

2010-03-24T13:58:00.000-07:00

Hello friends! Hope you are all having a wonderful day! Lets have a dialogue about insecurity. Come on now...we all have it right?

Insecurity is a permeating darkness that comes from a deep seeded shame based belief system that says "you are not good enough, lovable enough, successful enough, good looking enough, or important enough." Shame based beliefs are most often developed in childhood or from other important defining relationships. These beliefs are petty tyrants in that they have a need to be recycled. They are mostly recycled in our relationships that we choose to be in. Insecurity can burn inside like a fire and we can feel like a melting pot of chaos inside. As insecurity grows we become more and more needy, desperate, angry, avoidant etc.

A certain amount of insecurity is healthy in that it keeps us from narcissism. We cannot pass this life class without a healthy dose of insecurity and humility. We can see our insecurity as a gift. It can guide and make you more altert those you choose to keep company with and it can be seen as your great competitor to continue to work to better yourself and feel like a winner in the world. To be fully expressed and authentic is to have insecurity. Today be a beautiful disaster! There is nothing wrong with it!

2010-03-23T08:10:00.000-07:00

Hello friends!

It seems that in times when we are at a lowest lows that the magic of life brings the exact right person/place/experience to lift us up. There seems to be a silent yet magical message that says "you are not alone, you are always safe." Today I think we can look out to the world at our friends, family, strangers, random gifts that came our way and feel a deep sense of gratitude that they showed up at the exact right time. Life is so challenging for all of us and we need each other. We are reminded in these moments that love does exist, and that we exist in love. It is important to show people their lovability because in doing so we could essentially save a person's day, their week and sometimes their life. These moments are life changing, love altering and soul fixing!

What are you grateful for today?

Life Athlete

2010-03-22T08:55:00.000-07:00

Today I had to stand up and love myself in a time and situation that I did not want to. I think we all face these moments of having to stand up for our dignity and value. I had so much fuel in my system after I did what I needed to do that I went on a beautiful trail run. My feet were on the earth and in the dirt. I having to navigate the uncertain terrain. I was listening to my music and thinking about the uncertain navigation metaphorically and I how agile and alert I was to stay focused on the trail. It came to me that I am a life athlete and to be good at life we have to be alert to the uncertainties. We get through those uncertainties by being in the moment and focusing on what we can control. On the trail all I could control was my speed, and each step. Let us all be life athletes and take eveything in on a conscious level in the moment and you'll see that eveything always works out for the highest good. Your attitude about yourself is the most powerful energy you put into the world. Think positive and trust the process! How can you value yourself today?
Enjoy!

Broken Pieces

2010-03-18T21:25:00.000-07:00

Hello Friends,

Welcome to my blog! Please know this is NOT therapy and is not meant for 'treatment.' If you are reading my blog... this about is sharing and exploring....giving you things to think about. If what is written here impacts you emotionally and you feel you need help...please seek out a trained therapist.

Life in a strange way seems to be divinely open to possiblity. Even in all the treachery we can experience, we all travel in life with a "passenger consciousness." When we are young children out thoughts and emotions are experienced in the NOW, packaged away, and later in life those emotions and memories are consolidated into past/present understanding. As we age we can look back at those packaged life experiences. We can see that we have broken pieces from how we came through our traumas...even though those not in childhood. We can examine them and see how they impacted us a whole person, how we see the world, how we love, how we trust and how we navigate our lives. We can see that we have broken pieces from how we came through our childhoods.

I enjoy looking at the broken pieces of self...isn't just part of life?? We break and we grow, we break and we grow. Our calling in life is to be whole and to be whole we have to recognize and look at what is broken and impacting us as adults. It is like clearing cobwebs. If our broken pieces are ignored they will continue to poison us and our relationships, out jobs, our view on life. We all of a sudden get into a relationship and become someone that we no longer like and if we do not know where that originates from we will continue on that pattern. At our core, we are emotional beings. The emotions are meant to be examined. It is where being "conscious" originates. It starts within.

What are your beautiful broken pieces? lets share!