science of decision making/intuition

Did you know that all of our correct answers are in the body. The head is on a pole outside the body for a reason...the head is an 'outer authority' it is here to inspire others. Answers, however, are in the body. Our heart organ is 65% brain as I have mentioned in other posts. Thus, the body is the seat of the original,most correct answer. Our intuition, as some call it, is experienced as a feeling or an inner knowing that manifests in the body...the gut. This is not a mental process this in an emotion/instinctual process. As adults we often ignore these bodily sensations and we justify and rationalize away our feelings. We mentally accuse ourselves of being insecure or paranoid. I believe with enough time intuitions do always manifest as truths in our lives and I hope the reader will be inspired to be less critical of and more in tune with intuitive responses because they are correct. If we could act upon them more in the moment just imagine how much emotional trauma we could save ourselves. This is a practice for me every day and it is difficult to hone because the mind is so powerful and so full of distortion. When I get distorted I try and go back to my original feeling to back to center.

Fear... a snippet from my first book

Fear

For as long as I can remember

fear was closer to me emotionally

than any family member

My fear....unlike them

was always there

Its presence I could always feel within

its darkness would come from behind

and take me in.

Without my sight,

in its darkness I was blind.

My fear was clearly for so many years

the ruler of my life.

It had the power to control me

and eat me alive.

It held me back from living my life.

In this time alone...i knew

my relationship with fear

I had to get clear.

I had to befriend my fear.

Its seeds were planted within me somewhere.

Its roots I had to discover.

For many days and nights I looked at my fear

and cried.

I got to know it .

I let it whisper in my ear

It had things to say

I wanted to hear.

My fear ....it did not come from nowhere.

It had been with me since the

first emotional fracture.

My fear's intention was to protect and warn me

of what was up ahead that would hurt me.

In my discovery I felt compassion

for this mechanism

My fear had good intentions.

I now had a very new and unexpected understanding

My fear was not there to paralyze me.

My fear was my ally.

If used correctly it could motivate me

instead of engulf me.

My fear had new meaning.

I could let my fear

signal me when it was time

to face something.

I knew fear would always be there

to invade my psyche

But now I knew I could use it

to help me.

For behavior to change

it must first be understood by insight...

I think I am on my way.

fear

Fear can be a suffocating emotional experience that has the potential to halt your involvement in life. With fear...we have to learn to travel with uncomfortable feelings. It is about learning to be comfortable in the uncomfortable... all emotional states are temporary and wash in and wash out like the waves of the ocean. Once fear is triggered if one can surrender it will have many whisperings of insights to share with you. Fear has a great intention. It is the most evolving emotion we have because we tend to move when we are uncomfortable. If fear stops forward movement then we are not responding to its evolutionary purpose. The more it stops you the more it grows and eventually one will be left in a state of depression. Movement is fear's intention...it wants you to move so that you can travel out of it into a new level of life. If we feel fear in the body....guess what....get moving!

oneness

We are often so focused on controlling others in our outside world and waiting on them to meet our needs and expectations that we, in essence, lose our ability to take care of ourselves. Oneness is being you. We often are better equipped at taking care of others and we get joy out of the direct results we see when we make someone happy. What if we were to take care of ourselves in the same way that we take care of others. What if we stopped trying to get others to come on our "program" and rather we just lived our own program. Each of us is a unique individual and sometimes we have to make really difficult decisions to go out in the world and put ourselves first and I see that so many of us do not do that. We seem great on the outside as we rush around to 'please' the expectations of others but we are not happy inside. Today do for yourself what you would normally do for others. Make this a habit. Its basic math...you come first the world comes second...and watch how your energy changes. I am not talking here about being self-centered...I am talking about being centered on self. Fill up your oneness with what you expect others to do for you...and shine!
Dr. Sherrie

A little snack from my second book. As terrifying or agitating as our emotions can be, if we let them come we will find a gentle pearl of wisdom at the core of whatever emotions we are traveling with. Did you know that the heart organ is 65% brain...and it has an uninterrupted connection to the emotional-cognitive brain? What this means is that...all of our answers are in our bodies. It is the place of intuition. We feel our answers first. That first feeling is the correct answer...once the feeling gets up to the brain we tend to get distorted and doubtful of the original feeling. Remember...all of your correct decisions are made within the body...how you feel ...that very first feeling is the correct decision. Try and harness your truth today...and then don't think about it so much. Just do it!

Truth

Living my truth
what does that mean?
It means that I must live
according to my distinctive feelings.

My emotions are the most
enlightened aspect of my humanity.
The thoughts in my head
cannot be my inner authority.
They confuse me and instill mental misery

I have to feel
even if it is terrifying.
My stomach drops
into each emotion that is so alive
each one with its own intense ride.
I fear I will not survive.

I must develop my ability to see past
the wave of the emotion.
Clarity will come as the wave
returns to the calm of the ocean.

Each emotion has a truth to tell me,
each will offer the exact guidance
I will need

To live my truth
my defenses must go down.
I have to let go.
Into my emotions I must travel.

My truth lives in the core of each emotion.
I will peel back layers of distortion
and swim into their ocean.

A truth I do know…

I am a strong woman

Surrender:
Surrender is about letting go and/or giving into a process that one has been fighting. Surrender is about getting off the emotional roller coaster that life naturally provides for us. In surrendering we often have to jump into the void of aloneness and loneliness. In doing so we get the creative opportunity to learn how to love ourselves instead of supplying ourselves with love that is always coming from an external source. Love exists within each of us...yes, it can be hard to get to when the mind is full of distortion, but regardless...love is always within us ready for us to drink its nectar. If we do not truly love ourselves we cannot love anyone else. Surrender for me often brings about a detoxification process where I have emotions that come up because they need to come out. I have learned to just let them come. Once they are out... I have peace. I find the power within me under all those emotions.

Choosing to be alone can feel like an addict would feel when withdrawing from a drug. The pain can be so deep and soul wrenching that many prefer to avoid it. Avoiding it causes it grow like a mold and this makes life that much more difficult to manage. There are times when we just have to be brave and jump into the void of surrender. Take your jump today! You will find the gifts of growth will far outweigh the temporary discomfort of your chaotic emotions as you surrender.

Be a beautiful disaster!
Dr. Sherrie

The feeling of being lost may be one of the most unsettling, paralyzing experiences we can have and life will bring this experience to us many times throughout a lifetime. When we lose our sense of security and stability we become reptilian brained and we live in our basic survival mechanisms. Everything feels like an emergency as we grapple to find that feeling of safety. Sadness and fear can be hard to control and there are times that putting one foot in front of the other is the only way to survive. The great thing about feeling lost is that it is a temporary, situational experience. Time is always moving us foward. We are always moving foward. Eventually with enough time and movement we have things to respond to that life brings us and we find that we are no longer lost. Security will always find its way to you...try not to push the river...just wait to respond. While you are waiting and feeling lost...breathe...this is a highly creative time. It is about preparing for what is coming! BELIEVE.
DR. SHERRIE

Hello my friends. Today I was thinking about the issue of respect. Respect is something we all want and desire but often times we have such a hard time gathering it from the outside world. It is really simple in theory right? We say yes when we want to say yes and no when we want to say no. So why is when we want to say no that we come across such anxiety about how others will receive that "no." The anxiety that we have often causes us to say way too much to please the person we are saying no to. I have found communication that is short, succinct and unemotional causes us to immediately draw respect. When we get into pleasing or the fear of our no making someone mad...we try and prove ourselves to them in order to make our NO valid. We then become emotional and our boundary gets lost...we lose respect.

One of the best ways to say no is through the use of gratitude. We can thank someone for whatever it is that they are offering and then just say no. When we jump through hoops for people it often has a negative outcome. People see our hoop jumping as us being easy to manipulate emotionally. If we can be manipuated then we can be manipulated out of saying no. Guilt is often used to get us to go against what we are trying to say no to.

Today if you need to say no...give a little gratitude and then without explaining yourself or saying too much...just say no.
good luck!
Dr. Sherrie

Needing help and knowing that you need help comes hand in hand with humility that whatever it is you are doing to survive is not working. To have humility there has to be a sense of self awareness. Sometimes when our hearts are aching we are in a place of loneliness. To be lonely means to be without love. To be alone is only about space. It is hard to feel comfortable when we are lonely. We can be sad, chaotic beings. It is part of our nature. The great thing about seeking help from whomever is that it gives us the opportunity to be nurtured, loved, heard and understood. Others most often hold a higher thought of us then we hold of ourselves. We are hardest on ourselves. Loneliness, the feeling of being different, feeling melancholic and the trap of comparison occur all throughout the lifespan. We travel with these different states of mind from time to time. Often we use methods of avoidance, blame, or defensiveness to rid ourselves of these traps but I have learned and I hope you learn that that humility and reaching out are sometimes the best ways to get to the other side of a negative perception. Humility is the only way through life because life is hard and it will always have its challenges. Ride it out! Just hold on and ride it out...that is the way! To go at life fighting it with our egos will create more and more pain, but small doses of humility can change the course of your life. Love yourself today because there is only one like you. Be fully expressed...let the tantrum out, find the humility, ride it out and RISE ABOVE! Go at it....get busy....power on!!